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thankful thursday

Thursday, 24 April 2014

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Good morning lovelies, oh what a week it has been. As you can imagine, it's been a pretty rough week but if you can remember as far back as my first thankful thursday post you will know that these posts are my silver linings. Writing down things to be grateful for no matter how small makes you spend time appreciating rather than moping about the things you don't have, the people you don't like and situations that are beyond your control. This week I am thankful for:

your response to my post on monday: I can honestly say I've never felt so overwhelmed by your support and kind words and thank you so much for sharing your stories with me 

kevin the sheep: a present from someone just as strange as me - something miraculous in itself!

my dad feeling happy: he is one of the best people I know and seeing him enjoy life again is just the greatest

my h&m pantaloons: oh sweet lordy the worlds most comfortable trousers. I planned for them to be 'house trousers' on account of their outlandish garishness but now I just do not want to remove them

I am heading down to London at the weekend to see the wifey in her new home, catch up with a few of my favourite people and introduce them to a strange and wonderful man… haha joking.. I know you're reading this!
love lisette x

birthday wishes

Wednesday, 23 April 2014

birthday

001 - rivington clutch | whistles 
002 - macarons | ladureƩ
003 - emma hardy cleansing balm | feel unique  
004 - gingham smock | asos
005 - marble phone case | etsy                               
006 - white spot smock | asos
007 - pineapple teapot | zara home                      
 008 - flower hair grips | asos

when you lose a piece of your heart

Monday, 21 April 2014

rip laura
my eulogy:
We lived with Laura through her chemotherapy, she was an absolute inspiration, she never once grumbled or complained, she never felt sorry for herself because even then the only people she thought about were others
As gobby as Laura was, occasionally she would say something so utterly astounding that it would be enough to silence any room.
For me this was during her first treatment when she was busy rolling her eyes at the overbearing nurses, she suddenly went quiet. Being nosy I asked what she was thinking. She turned to me, and said simply "I'm really glad it's me and not meg that's ill because she was born to be a mum". She was the best friend any of us could have ever hoped for.

Grief is a funny little bugger isn't it? One minute you feel fine and the next you are weeping into a bag of skittles or onto the shoulder of that stranger on the bus that smells like quavers. I realised when we lost Laura that young people aren't really cut out for grief, we don't really know what to 'do' when we lose someone we love -  we just float around in a bubble, numb and angry. Between Laura's death and her funeral I wrote something down every day to see if the acclaimed 5 Stages of Grief  which is denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance, has any relevancy for the younger generation. My conclusion.. ridiculous and demonstrative to try and reduce such a raw emotion to clinical stages!

  I don't want to scare anyone but I don't think we ever truly 'get over' loss. Losing someone you love is like losing a little piece of your heart, it can't be undone. You can however become a more optimistic and resilient person as a result of it, grief teaches you things about yourself that love never could. Grief has actually helped me like the person that I am more because it has shown me what kind of friend I am and how strong you can be if you invest your love in people who deserve it. One year on and there are still moments where my throat catches and my eyes well up, it might be a song from her funeral or just remembering making terrible, terrible baked goods together in our dressing gowns - these are things I will never forget.
From this post I want you to take two things whether you have lost someone or not, because they really are important to remember if you ever do lose someone or have a friend going through something similar.
1) it is ok to feel upset or angry or sad, but please do not isolate yourself because other people might need you even if you don't need them
2) don't waste your life being afraid. You have to grab life by the proverbial gentials and make sure that you live the life you want to lead to the fullest because some people don't get the chance

As Frodo says at the end of the return of the king:

How do you pick up the threads of an old life? How do you go on, when in your heart, you begin to understand, there is no going back? There are some things that time cannot mend. Some hurts that go too deep.. You cannot always be torn in two. You will have to be one and whole for many years. You have so much to enjoy, and to be, and to do. Your part in the story will go on. 

Above all, remember joyfully and gratefully - life is so precious.
love lisette x

thankful thursday

Thursday, 17 April 2014

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HAPPY THURSDAY! And yes it is bank holiday.. I am just smitten with the idea of a few extra days off. I have a pretty big weekend coming up, I'm making the pilgrimage up to York to meet up with some uni friends and some of Laura's nearest and dearest to mark the 1 year anniversary of her death. Not in a dour, miserable way but one full of food and happy memories of our little ginger gypsy. This week I am thankful for:

sunshine: it finally feels like spring, at work I can hear the lambs in the fields and I can see the little bunnies hopping around, the sky is blue and the fields are a beautiful vibrant yellow

"gurning": where things/ people make you smile on such an inescapable and visceral level that you physically can't keep the corners of your mouth downturned

being alive: might sound horribly cliche but I don't think I will ever want to take my health, relative sanity, and general aliveness for granted at this time of year


What does everyone have planned for the big bank holiday weekend?
love lisette x

lisette loves | crumble

Tuesday, 15 April 2014

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Happy happy tuesday folks! I am in a mighty good mood this evening as I am now half way through my work week with easter bank holiday in the horizon. Now, anyone who knows me will know that food makes me happier than pretty much anything.. if you can't buy happiness you can sure as hell bake it! I've had a hankering for crumble for about a week and a half but I'm so fickle I just can't decide which one to make. I've narrowed it down to the following contenders strawberry and ginger, traditional apple and spices, pear and amaretto and apple and blackberry. Which do you reckon / have you got any more suggestions and family favourites?
love lisette x